Midlife wife crisis13

[Wolfman]

AS I have to disagree with you. I don’t think that my s should be making the decisions. And my w wasn’t trying to shield him she just wanted him for herself. I will tell you why. She told me about 3 times to make sure he was home by 9 because he had to go to bed because he has a hard time getting up in the morning. So fine I understand that. So I made sure he was home by 9. Monday when I picked him up I told my s who won the game. He said I know. I said you do? He said yeah me, mom and sister stayed up and watched the whole game. He said when he was yelling at the tv mom was recording him. Ex hates football she never watches it. Shoot I played football in college and semi-pro and she never watched me play. All the past Super Bowls she never watched when we went to party’s she would be off with the women drinking. So it annoys me that she made me take him home early when we were having a good time. She should have just told me the truth that she wanted to watch it with him too. It makes me wonder what she said to s that made him not want to go in the first place.

IT WAS HER TIME WITH THE KIDS!!!!!! She gave you some of HER time with them, what are you not understanding about this? It was COMPLETELY at HER discretion! Why do you constantly paint her as the bad guy? She didn't have to give you any time with them! I think you're really struggling with seeing anything from her point of view. You asked her to take S during her time with him, and then you want to take him to an adult party somewhere. I can completely understand why this would give her heartburn. She wanted him back early, fine. What they did after you took him back is frankly none of your business. Look, the two of you are separated. You've got to quit spinning your wheels on who she's with, what she's doing, etc. Use your time with the kids wisely, and allow her to have her time with them undisturbed. I understand that to you the Super Bowl is a big deal and that you think it should be an exception, but she probably doesn't see it that way. But she STILL allowed you to take S, which personally I think was quite generous of her.

I know it was her time with the kids and I was very appreciative. I thanked her many times for doing that. The adult party had kids there and she knows the people and so does my son. It wasn’t a strangers house. I think there is nothing wrong with me being annoyed with bringing him home early when she said he had to go to bed and she didn’t do that. I didn’t say anything to her I didn’t even ask my s about it. I just said to him that chiefs won and he told me everything. As far as painting her as the bad guy yeah I guess I do. I know I will probably upset people with this but she is the one who put us here. So yes, at times I am bitter seeing what she has done to our family. That there was never a chance to work on it or fix it. I have said this before, that nothing major happened, and she never even tried to work things out. Hey I hear how people are cheated on, abuse, addiction and those couples work it out. Hey we had nothing like that. So yeah at times I feel she is the bad guy for doing this to me but more importantly doing this to my kids. Constant back and forth, not having both of us around all the time. I would do anything to keep a “normal” life for my kids. I initiated MC after 4 days she stopped. I moved into the basement to appease her to show her I would do anything for her (obviously that was wrong to do, I know that now). I was willing to sacrifice or do anything to keep the family together. So yeah t times, I struggle why she wouldn’t? Obviously I’m her mind it was to hard for her to stay married. But honestly she still looks miserable. And still never seems happy. She thought I was the root of her unhappiness.