Midlife wife crisis13

[Wolfman]

Was there anything positive about your W? I know we only have your side of the story, but she really sounds dreadful. Were the two of you ever happy in your MR?

She was very caring at the very beginning. She always wanted to be with me. She would always call me when she left work and just wanted to spend tiMe with me. We were very happy, we did t have a lot of money and stayed home most weekends watching movies and going out to an occasional dinner. We went to the gym together and we were inseparable. Once we had kids there were some changes in her. I would say normal things that come with have kids. She was always tired and stressed. She was never a sexual person and I was her first. As we started to make more money she started to actually complain more that we weren’t doing enough ( dinner out, vacations, material things) So we started to do those things more. We both have good jobs and yet at the end of the month we never had any extra money. The more we made the more she wanted to spend and the less she wanted to be home. Little by little she started to cook less, keep up with the house less. She would constantly say things like she works during the week and she is tired and doesn’t want to cook all the time or want to clean. And the. On the weekend she would say she needs down time and doesn’t want to cook or clean because she is a working woman. And look I get those things, who really wants to cook all the time and clean when you have a job? But we have a home and kids and unfortunately at some point these things need to get done. So she would ask me for help with things, she was “overwhelmed” so I started to pick up the slack. It got to a point I was good shopping, cleaning the house, landscaping, keeping up with the pool , paying bills, helping the kids with homework, cleaning up after dinner(loafing and unloading dishwasher). And she would complain that she needed more help with the kids. Like making there lunches and help with laundry. Well I said to her I can’t help her because I am already doing x,y, and z. And she would get angry and say I don’t help her. When I would list everything g I was doing to help her she would down play it like it was no big deal what I did. As she started to approach 40 she kept talking about getting older and she doesn’t look good. Meanwhile she is beautiful. I’ll never forget one day we were sitting with her 2 friends and my ex said that we never travel. Both her friends said are you crazy!!!! You go away more than both of us combined. She just never saw how lucky we were and how fortunate we were. Beautiful home, 2 great careers, 2 beautiful healthy kids, travel 5 times a year. But she always wanted more and more. Before we split she actually said to me, that she never imagined that she would ever have to work cook or clean. She knew I was becoming a teacher. There was no million dollar payday at the end of the rainbow. Also as time went we barely we sexual. Maybe twice a month. And it was me initiating it. Anytime so would talk to her about being intimate she would get mad at me. I would tell her I love her and am very attracted to her and I love being intimate with my wife. If I didn’t initiate it we could go 2 months sometimes. Basically it started off loving and happy and life was simple but the more money we made and her being on Facebook and constantly comparing our life things started to get worse. I have to go to work I’ll be back later to address more and everyone else’s comments.