Thanks BenB

[Mumin]

With that said, claim the MBR as yours. If she decides to sleep elsewhere, make it manly. A big picture of a motorcycle or an airplane. New black comforter and bedding.

Little words, much action.

If asked:
H:"I believe it is best I sleep in here"

Thanks R2C to the point and simple!!


Hoosjim thanks for your points!
I wasn't really clear on the MAN and WOMAN thing. I am fully aware of that there ARE differences and if I have learn anything on that regard, it is that i havn't made them clear enough in our R.
My point here was simply to make it clear for others on the forum that the fact that we are married doesn't really matter where we live. There is no real "belief" that will keep her in the marriage. In some cultures marriage it self has a lot more value (rather than just a fun party and some legal consequences).
So for me this means DB and getting Respect is even MORE important. With W or with any other woman.

I applaud your plan to get back into the MBR by first making a room for your daughter... but I would not delay in doing it.

Thanks! Looking at furniture today, will order next week when we are away skiing.

Go read my thread

Actually read most of your thread already since you earlier said our sitch's were similar.
Totally agree.
However (while it may be early in) I see a difference. Your W was asking you all these questions about "at lake?" "who u with?" etc. Mine is dead silent almost all of the time.
I will maintain my current approach for a while but "don't do what doesn't work" will come in to play eventually I guess.

Also, I realized that I have never used the word affair or unfaithful when talking to W. Whats your take on this?