KML... I’m not too worried. I don’t think it is as simple as she is dating someone else. It is more that he noticed something between her and his friend when they were married and she denied anything was going on. Then he saw her sitting with his kids and his parents at their daughter’s basketball game last week which indicated a higher level of intimacy than just dating thus making him think there had likely been an affair. I think he would have felt differently if she was just dating “some guy” but that’s not the case. This is a good friend who hasn’t said anything about it. Lying by omission is still lying and I think that is what he is upset about. The upset is fading.
The divorce was amicable in that they came to an agreement and did the divorce without any lawyers. He says they are not friends but they aren’t enemies either. They just aren’t really involved in each other’s lives other than when they are at their daughters’ various activities.
Anyway...Brook and I are just talking and we have taken a step back from the nightly texting sessions. I think his reaction to this really surprised him and he is genuinely trying to figure out why it bothers him. I am glad that he is choosing to step back from whatever is happening between us as some guys would just try to get past it by upping their efforts to get involved with someone else to make themselves feel better. That’s not Brook. I think it is a sign of respect that he doesn’t feel right about continuing to develop a relationship with me until he works through this. I have told him to take all the time and space that he needs because I wouldn’t want him to do anything different. I have no interest in being anyone’s rebound/revenge relationship.
Texted with Buddy a bit today. Gonna hang out with him on Saturday. Will see Brook as well but I’ve already told him my primary reason for going is to hang with Brook. My sister may come too as she hasn’t seen Buddy in ages. It just depends on work. Regardless, it will be a fun day.
