Long text conversation with Brook today. I think I successfully talked him down off a ledge and got him to step back from his emotional “cave man” (his words) reaction to the possibility that his XW and friend are seeing each other. He really does not have proof they were fooling around when they were married and they have been apart long enough that she could have started seeing this guy after the divorce. And he is not his best friend...just a pretty good friend. I also got him to look at it from a different perspective which is that she IS going to be dating and it might be better for him to know the guy she is dating rather than not know him since that person will be around his girls. He definitely saw the logic in that. I also asked him if, all things being equal, he would want to get back together with her and he said definitely not...that he doesn’t have those feelings for her so he’s not even really sure why he is upset. Ego...was my guess. Told him that if he can find a way to move past it to the extent that the past really doesn’t matter anymore, he will know that he has truly moved on. At first he thought he might need to talk with her to “clear the air” but by the end of our conversation, he said he wasn’t sure that talking to her would give him what he needed as he doesn’t even know what that is at this point. So...it looks like maybe the crisis has been averted and he is continuing to work on moving forward. I’d tell him about this board except, selfishly, this is my place for therapy and I need to have somewhere to write about him...lol.
BTW...I’m starting to think I might get that job. The regional manager emailed me today to tell me to call her. She says she can help me figure out how to prepare for the interview. Hmmm...me thinks she wants me to get it...lol. Not gonna lie...that feels pretty good.
