Watching Marriage Story was hard for me, and it has been 10 years. It does a good job of showing the typical process. There were many places where either one of them could have made DBing choices.
It has been awhile since I watch this one:
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Fireproof Movie....Basically, if you want to see a really good love story, with lots of values and morals in it, and you don't necessarily care how bad the acting is, this is the movie for you!
If you do decide to watch MS, watch fireproof as well. I believe they save the marriage, but it has been a long time.
He asked you to watch it. Then you do it, not because you want to, but because he asked. You can pull the same on him. Watch Fireproof and see if you think he should watch it.
W:"I watched MS because you asked me to. Here is FP, please watch it for me."
As far as BDing, I believe many here are being too passive and ignoring too many things that should be addressed. You did fine. DB says do not initiate the talks. He initiated. He probed.
When this happens, you speak your truth. You listen to understand. You show your hurt. You say what you want from them. You also have guage how receptive the other person is. Are they listening? Can they handle this? Can I handle this? Is this working to help with my goal to save this? Can you listen to how the other persn is feeling? Can you not argue?
It is hard. extremely hard.
HUGS
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
