Glad you are feeling better, Pack. Old behavior patterns are hard to break, but you have to keep training yourself to a different behavior.
Every time you have the desire to ask your W to take a walk with you, or go out to dinner, or have a chat........you must remember this is pressure on her. Every time you ask her to give you a few moments with her, you might as well place yourself back to day one of the separation. Okay? Stop pursuing your W! Write it on the inside your eyelids.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!