Thanks BenB

[Mumin]

First of all:
Big thanks to all of you, ovrrnbw, LH19, Steve85, job, hoosjim, BenB, neffer, and everyone on this Forum!
Your advice, reading threads and rules are really helping me see things clearly.

Right now I will not do much more in regards to W, focus on me and kids, read, spend time skiiing and enjoying life WITHOUT W next week. I will need to see a bit more of her reaction to last night.

I will order a new bed for D1 and redecorate her room. We have talked about this for a while and its only fair to her. IT will also be a bit of a 180 for me as well as a natural step toward taking back MBR.

And just in case you are thinking she might come back if you can only end this affair with this current loser, think again.

Actually not thinking this at all! I will let it happen because I know she has to see the other side. Also, since they are co-workers and meet every day I can't control it at all. He also lives on the other side of the city.

I have read many threads were LBS wants to or has some sort of contact with sister/brother/father in-law. I want this in some way (especially since my kids are about to get a cousin) but it seems very hard now, they typically don't initiate contact. Sister in law did however say to my brother that she is worried and it would be good if me and her "talked"... Feels like dangerous waters.
Should I wait for her/them to initiate contact? Should I not talk about W and R even if she asks? (Not even sure she knows about OM..

Some other notes that I think are considerable:
Culture and different legal systems DEF play a part here.
Traditional Values are long gone and for instance "traditional" values between men and women don't really exist here anymore. We are equal in society. "No one" goes to church (Actually not a single person I know including at work does) and do not believe in god. Thereby marriage isnt as important.
There is a personal note here that I might want to remove later, I hope that is possible. Job?
W's father is a doctor and it was he who prescribed the BC-pills...