The lack of guilt also reminded me that this is VERY far from over.....I remember the vets saying that the end is near when the WAS starts to realize the damage that they’ve done and feel guilty about it....in my mind I was sure he was feeling guilty. So that was a shock to me.
Just a quick note on that. Something you need to worry about that others on here don't is that guilt and shame when it starts will very very likely lead to a shame spiral for your alcoholic. He will drink even more to numb the pain from the shame of blowing everything up, and then feel ashamed for drinking like that and drink more, and so on. Unfortunately for you, there's two levels of other side of this. Even if he wakes up from his crisis he HAS to address his addiction or there's no coming back from this for either of you. I'm not saying this to make you lose hope. I'm saying this so you can prepare yourself that things may get worse before they get better.
