Divorce because I betrayed her trust - PART 7

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Little update on things

Gym - now up to 60kg on abs machine, 80kg on leg press, 35kg on Pecs, 45kg on leg extension and low row.
Seeing a more obvious difference now. Massive confidence boost.

Had a call from property L. Completion on house in a couple of weeks. This is it.
Need to finalise the storage lock up I've reserved and check my stuff will all fit. W said I could have a few things that she can't be bothered to remove; thought I might as well take them then I don't have to buy replacements later.

I've moved forward a significant amount, but still sad W threw this all away. I'm going to the house on Saturday with my sister, to take a few more valuables back. She still believes W has been led to do this, and is upset that after reaching out to her offering help, W has totally ignored her. I have validated my sister when she's told me this. She also says "She thought leaving you and selling up was the easy option. I don't know why she thought that - it's actually the most difficult option, as neither of you have a place to live and you have to start again. Why does she think that's easy?"

My sister mentioned that she's had problems with her H recently (trust and non-comms, no EA or PA evidence though). She said "I wouldn't leave him just because I was unhappy or for one thing, only if there was violence or something very serious like if he got another girl pregnant and kept it from me. I've put far too much effort into the house to throw all that away and I don't want to undo all that work." We've been talking a lot recently, which is good.

I wish W was more like her, but she's more "You did something wrong, that's it, it's over, no conversation."
I never understood this sentiment - it's very commonplace now - in songs, soap operas, films etc. Wrong the person you love, and people are more frequently being shown the solution of: "This was wrong, but I'm not going to bother weighing up all the good things, even though there are way more of them. They don't matter now - I'm just going to end it."
I try not to dwell on this but it's hard sometimes.

I know that I have to keep at that picnic and let the lighthouse keep shining and keep it in perfect condition. That way, when W, her family, or her friends turn back, they'll see Dan 2.0.