On a side note... I reread Brook’s text to me and given what he said, I’m not 100% sure that he KNOWS they were having an affair. What he told me is that he saw them talking and giggling together at a basketball camp last year and that he asked her what was up. She told him “nothing”...they were just friends. Then he saw her sitting with his kids and parents on Saturday at their daughter’s game. So it looks like he is convinced there was something going on but if all he knows about is what he texted me, he may be jumping to conclusions. I say this because I had that kind of a friendship with a guy towards the end of my first marriage. There was an attraction and a connection but we never acted on it. My friendship with him, however, did get me reflecting on my marriage and what was missing. My H even noticed it and said to me...”Wow. Too bad you didn’t meet that guy before you met me. You and I never laugh like that together.” I panicked when he said that. I wanted to be married for life. But he wasn’t wrong. There were things missing from our marriage and my friendship with this guy was the catalyst for my XH and I to really take a look at it. But I didn’t cheat and there is a possibility she didn’t either... especially if all he knows is those two things. Anyway...I texted him this morning to ask if that is all he knows and told him the story about me and my H and that it may have been a similar dynamic between his XW and his friend and that maybe the betrayal is not as extreme as he thinks it is. Anyway...we’ll see. Hopefully it is not as bad as he thinks.
