On a good note I haven't received any accusatory or threatening emails from my XW in awhile. Poor D14 thinks this is only the calm before the storm. I wonder if XW is finally realizing that her problem is not her relationship with me, that is over, but her relationship with D14. If she can only realize that I am not the enemy and neither is D14. She should look in the mirror if she truly wants to find the source of her problems. It is a difficult thing to look at oneself fully and be willing to see the darkness that exists. I have learned I am capable of anger I never thought possible. It frightened me immensely.
She's on a roller coaster and will be for quite some time. Don't be fooled into thinking that because she's in a valley right now that she will stay there. Oh no, she will climb to the next peak and be in full "crazy" mode again. You've got to focus on detaching and leave her to figure out her own mess. You said above "on a good note" when in fact it shouldn't matter to you. Who cares if she sends you accusations and threats, file them in a "crazy ex wife" folder and go about your day. I think you're still giving her more control over your life, your PMA and your outlook then you should. Detach, detach, detach!
