Newlywed and in crisis

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Will do BenB! Thanks!

Update

As expected, W texted and asked if I am coming. I replied that I will not go(in a respectful manner). Then along comes a string of texts from W, I guess she is angry *shrugs*

Here are some of her points:

• "You didn't come to the last one, you should come to this one"
• "Think about my parents and my family (something about saving face)"
• "I am not asking you to spend time with me, just talk to my parents and family"

Then she ended it with:
"If you don't want to go then go ahead, but I'll make it clear that you're the one who doesn't want to come, not me" (shifting blame to me, so that her family doesn't blame her for my absence)

Her mother texted me shortly after, pleading me to come to the wedding. I could detach myself from W's text, but this is harder for me to deal with because of how nice W's parents are and I feel guilty. She is also asking me to come to the house tomorrow for another round of "spiritual treatment". I've been pulling back from everything and now they think there is something wrong with me too. Oh my.

I haven't responded to them yet. Here's my plan:

• To W: Validate and then quickly end the convo.
• I'll comply and I'll come to the "spiritual treatment". They'll probably talk me into going to the wedding but I'll try to hold my ground. I'll just listen, validate and detach when they tell me things. Then promptly leave when done.
• To MIL: "I really appreciate the invite. I would love to go to the wedding. I'm sorry, but I need space for the time being. Please understand"

I could really use feedback and advice. Feeling rather conflicted right now.