FYI I'm typing on my phone. So, I DID IT! I told her I'm living in the house. Feels both good and weird.
Basically I said I have decided I am not going to be a victim. Only I am responsible for my happiness (read on the forum). I need to be able to feel good, perform at work and take care of kids. I am not ok with just moving out. This is my home.
W- this Feels very weird for me! Me- Yes I understand that but I've changed my mind. It is your decision to do something (than work on our R) else and find your way. I need to find mine.
W - You have to buy me out then.. (pay for her share of the house) Me - Yeah, already talked to parents about a loan.
W- Can I sleep out in the cabin? Me - You do what you want.
She went in to bathroom, started playing music loud. On her phone. Hmmm, I wonder with who? Then she went to bed in MBR.
I can't sleep in MBR because D1 is sleeping there as well. But I guess it's a first step.
Also, earlier today she called me about day care. They think we (almost always her) are late to pick up kids. She started crying in the middle of the call and hung up.
Told her via text it's up to her to handle her share/part.
Me: 34 Stbxw: 30 D:5 D:3 Mini bd: May/June 2019 Married: Aug 2019 BD: 6th Dec 2019 OM Confirmed: Feb 2020 March 2020: I filed for D Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021