Of course men aren’t “banished” for trying, but as HaWho said, there are plenty of ways to show attraction without being handsy. This is where the whole being an adult thing comes into play and both people have to honestly communicate. If y’all both feel it on date 1, do it. If one of you doesn’t feel it, the onus is on that person to be honest.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids