Being a doormat vs. accepting interaction

[SteveLW]

Hi, everyone. My WAH and I had lunch today and he told me he wants to reconcile. He's dismissing his case. It's my birthday.

It's going to be a long road to put this thing back together but I want to try to do it. Thank you to everyone who helped me. I think it was the giving up and walking away that did the trick. People, listen to Steve. He annoyed me in the beginning but he is right and I am a fan. I may stick around and try to help others who find themselves in this nightmare.

Anyway, happy birthday to me.

First Happy Birthday! Second, sorry for being annoying. I try to be persistent if someone seems to be hesitant to at least try doing what works. I am sure the LBSs that give up the MBR get frustrated with us constantly hounding them to take back the MBR. But we do it because we know that short of that there is little hope of saving the MR.

I do want to caution you not to go all in on the R just yet. Lots of LBSs get suckered into dropping DBing because their WAS starts sniffing back around. Likely, in these initials stages, he sees Plan B (you) slipping away. And that gives him a very uneasy feeling. He needs that fall back plan to feel secure. Insecurity will cause even the staunchest of WASs to try to reestablish their Plan B option.

So proceed carefully. Remember, he is still a WAS and therefore nothing.....NOTHING he says can be believed. Make him act....and earn his way back. Based on your language about it being a long road, you probably already know this. But I wanted to annoy you one last time.....just in case!