You are all right, that date was not a good idea. I will admit it made me feel great in the moment, but that is not fair to another person. I have canceled that date.
WELL DONE!!!! I was fully expecting you to list a bunch of reasons "explaining" your rationale for continuing with the date, you'd be surprised how many LBS's will do that. They just keep doing the wrong things while convincing themselves that their situation is unique and the DB rules don't apply to them. So great job on listening and acting, I know it wasn't easy but it was the right course of action. Very proud of you!
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I need more time to become that man my wife would regret not being married to. With that said, I am going to continue working on those things for myself.
Perfect.
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I know Steve said if she all of sudden turned around and wanted to work on this marriage I would be over the moon, but I just don't feel that way at all. At this point I just can't see how I would ever want to be back with her.
And that's OK to feel that way. It may indeed be over, but like you said you've got some work to do before you're ready for the next R. And while you're doing that work, your W may very well hit rock bottom and start working on herself, and then who knows what may happen.
