To be honest with you I think you did just fine. I would have been ok if you slept with him.
Well of course you would! Coming from the guy who’s doing Friday, Saturday, Sunday weekends on date 4.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
Don- you give off that love avoidant vibe. I thought holding hands is just a sweet gesture which I happen to love. And putting my head on his shoulder isn’t crying love either.
LMAO. This has NOTHING to do with love avoidant at all. In fact many love avoidants will come on strong in the early goings. It’s part of the syndrome. However what you describe I relate more with early love and infatuation not second dates. Might just be me but nothing to do with LA
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
Amen, sister! Not the first time I’ve been called that and won’t be the last. I wear it proudly.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
I think that’s a very personal choice. I don’t think there is a magic number. For me, I have to be comfortable with someone and I have to know that I’m the only one because I’m not interested in sleeping with someone who is sleeping with 3 or 4 or however many others. For me, it is usually at least 5 dates and lots of texts and phone conversations in the interim. I’m just not a casual sex person. Not that there is anything wrong with that, mind you...just isn’t what I’m into. Now,, to your point, if 2 consenting adults are feeling it, then they should act on it whether it is date 1, 10, or 100. That’s their business. My comments were not based on the fact that I didn’t think G should sleep with dude on 2nd date if she was ready, but more to the point that she was saying one thing and doing something else. I do think, in general, when sex is involved, feelings are mixed up in it for women. Now I am sure some women will say oh no, I can do no strings sex, but in general, I don’t think that’s a natural setting for women. Of course there are exceptions to that.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
I think the important thing is that you don't want to be perceived as promiscuous. If you're put in the category of an easy lay, then you probably won't have long term prospects with the person you're dating.
