So you are a married man and you have a date for V's day. Sounds like you have a lot of work to do on yourself too.
Yeah this concerns me too. js, a lot of LBSs fall into the trap of finding someone new and then deciding they are done. That is cart in front of horse. Are you REALLY ready? If not, this new R has no change of success. You have to earn your way out of your marriage. Maybe you have, but I've followed your sitch js and I don't think you have.
I don’t feel married anymore, I’ve told my family, all close friends, etc that I am divorced. Yes, legally it’s not completed, but I just hit a wall and was done. That feeling happened and then by chance I met someone. If my heart was still in this I don’t believe that would have happened?
I agree, I have a lot to work on, confidence is a big one for me, shyness, etc, all things that I just need to be out making new friends.
LH19, you are right though, I told myself I would not date until the divorce was finalized. So thank you for the reality check, I am going to cancel this date.
BRavo JS! Bravo! Glad to see you do the right thing.
Look this stuff is hard. Sometimes we do things out of hurt, anger, and fear. You likely had some of that going on when you made this date. However, it takes a big man to admit he was wrong, and then to take actions to correct it! So good on you. If you need help in what to tell this new person, we'll be glad to coach.
Working on you for you, not for your WW, may just attract her back anyway.
I will save my diatribe on the "I feel divorced" thing later, right now I just want to congratulate you for doing the right thing.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
