Do you guys think she really can't figure this out, or is she just continuing to drag it out? I certainly think she is a moron with her current life choices, but she isn't a stupid person intellectually.
She is wayward. Also, she wants to keep you on the back burner, just in case things with OM go sour. Therefore, she had to find something to use as a connection. Know what it was? It was the dog.
Many young WW's play this game with the LBH. It's their way of keeping one foot in both worlds.
If you aren't ready to divorce, or aren't sure.......then wait. However, you don't have to play her game. Work on your own personal growth. You don't have to show her any changes, especially when she is having an affair! Don't be afraid of not responding to her. Don't be afraid to tell her you have nothing to discuss as long as she is seeing someone else.
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How would you guys respond to that? I don’t want to see her, and I don’t really see any reason why it’s necessary.
Answer: I don't want to see you, so I really see no reason as we have nothing to discuss as long you are seeing someone else.
If she says she doesn't know what she wants, then you tell her that's too bad, b/c you don't intend to waste your life waiting for a wayward wife to make up her mind.
Seriously, as long as she can play games with you......she will. She will need to feel she's really losing you as a friend, a husband, or any capacity you hold in her life.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
