I think she legit noticed a change in her behavior. Did you get in her for being a few minutes late in the past?
She’s used to you reacting one way and she noticed you didn’t. She making you aware of a changed behavior that really upset her.
Yes in the past I would give her a hard time. If she said she was going out with friends and said she would be home by a certain time and wasn’t, I would wait 15-20 minutes. If she wasn’t home or didn’t text me I would call or text her and yes, I would give her an attitude. One time she went to breakfast with friends, I was expecting hour, hour and a half. She came home 3 hours later (in case you are wondering she went out with 2 other women who I am friends with their husbands and asked when their wives got home and it was 3 hours). I was pissed and gave her a hard time about it. So those past experiences definitely gave her anxiety. Not for nothing but she did the same to me. Gave me a hard time when I went out and about being home at a certain time. Granted I should have been better and done a better job about speaking to her about it. I really wish I could of handled things differently back then.
Originally Posted by Ready2Change
Originally Posted by Wolfman
Is it ever possible that she will NOT push my buttons?
Pushing buttons is not fun if there is no reaction. You are in control of your response when the buttons get pushed. Keep your buttons disconnected.
I do keep them disconnected. I try very hard not to let her bother me.
Originally Posted by IHCLACS
Grayrock. Remember?
I do. Trying very hard to be happy around her and not let her words bother me.
AS I have to disagree with you. I don’t think that my s should be making the decisions. And my w wasn’t trying to shield him she just wanted him for herself. I will tell you why. She told me about 3 times to make sure he was home by 9 because he had to go to bed because he has a hard time getting up in the morning. So fine I understand that. So I made sure he was home by 9. Monday when I picked him up I told my s who won the game. He said I know. I said you do? He said yeah me, mom and sister stayed up and watched the whole game. He said when he was yelling at the tv mom was recording him. Ex hates football she never watches it. Shoot I played football in college and semi-pro and she never watched me play. All the past Super Bowls she never watched when we went to party’s she would be off with the women drinking. So it annoys me that she made me take him home early when we were having a good time. She should have just told me the truth that she wanted to watch it with him too. It makes me wonder what she said to s that made him not want to go in the first place.
M:42 XW:41 T:19 M: 15 D:13 S:10 BD: 8/10/18 Moved out: 8/18 Moved in: 9/18/18 Moved out: 4/22/19 D papers signed 11/4/19 D final 3/18/20