Just an update. And for even newer newbies this is why detachment is key. Things that happened in the last 2 hours. My step daughter informed me her dad picked her up from school for the first time in weeks. That he told her about OW and told her he would like her to meet OW. An hour after she told me that he came home from the gym. He had a 25 min convo with me. Was excited about the dinner I made. It’s one of his favorites. Ate dinner with us as a family and asked what movie I want to watch. He’s texting her. I can see it. But looks over at me at the funny parts. This roller coaster is every day. If I couldn’t detach and let him drag me along for this ride I’d be a bigger mess than him. A guy friend said as he dives deeper into his R with OW the more attractive I’ll look if I can keep this up. I become the unattainable one. I become the one that isn’t needy. I’m the one who demands nothing from him. Zero expectations. He may leave. He may fully pursue the OW, but he’ll do so looking over his shoulder. On the days it’s really, really hard I think about that. Whether I decide to stand in the long haul or not me firmly planted in his review mirror keeps me going. I’m more than happy to be the one that got away.
