I love reading about all of your self-care activities, wayfarer, may, and HesAble! It was so freeing for me when I realized GAL didn't necessarily have to be going out all the time. I still struggle with feeling a bit guilty about spending money on myself, but I know H wouldn't think twice (and hasn't!). I enjoyed cleaning and decluttering the house this weekend and cutting some branches from a tree in the backyard to put in a vase in my room. I've decided to buy myself a new vase I've been wanting, so that I'll have it ready for the flowers I'll buy myself on Valentine's Day.
...I've decided to buy myself a new vase I've been wanting, so that I'll have it ready for the flowers I'll buy myself on Valentine's Day.
I will be purchasing myself Valentine's Day flowers as well! And chocolate covered strawberries and prosecco. Yay me!!!! Learning to show MYSELF some love! May also book a facial or some other spa service for V Day weekend.
H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9 BD - 11/2019 Married 14 years; Together 20 years
I will be purchasing myself Valentine's Day flowers as well! And chocolate covered strawberries and prosecco. Yay me!!!! Learning to show MYSELF some love! May also book a facial or some other spa service for V Day weekend.
Ok wait...maybe I am getting a little too carried away with this thing! LOL
H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9 BD - 11/2019 Married 14 years; Together 20 years
I will be purchasing myself Valentine's Day flowers as well! And chocolate covered strawberries and prosecco. Yay me!!!! Learning to show MYSELF some love! May also book a facial or some other spa service for V Day weekend.
Ok wait...maybe I am getting a little too carried away with this thing! LOL
OMG NO!! You are not! Put that into dude terms and imagine your H saying:
I will buy myself a beer and snacks! And a new baseball hat/album/sports jersey/whatever floats my boat this month! Maybe I'll even go get myself a haircut and then sit around and watch the game without doing any laundry first... Whoa... too much! i'm getting carried away!
No. no no no. (I mean I have no idea what your H would equate to buying yourself prosecco and getting a massage but my guess is he would do it in a heartbeat and think you were crazy for thinking he should feel guilty.)
You deserve to treat yourself. You are not getting carried away-- you're not even CLOSE to getting carried away. I used to think like this too (and still need to beat it down a little bit), and it also fed my resentment. Think about it like taking back your power to manage your own mood-- taking pleasure in the small things and not letting his (as the CL would say) f**kwittery get you down, and not letting your resentment get the better of you.
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
I will buy myself a beer and snacks! And a new baseball hat/album/sports jersey/whatever floats my boat this month! Maybe I'll even go get myself a haircut and then sit around and watch the game without doing any laundry first... Whoa... too much! i'm getting carried away!
I am laughing, may, but this is so true! Do it allllll, HesAble!
My H used to get annoyed at me for getting Amazon packages every day like I was somehow wasting all of our money. I'm like yes. Toilet paper, dishwasher detergent, shampoo. Look at my over-the-top spending. And I *honestly* felt like going to Target for fricking toilet paper instead of just shopping online at night in my PJs was like a enormous treat to myself. ha ha! Sorry, not anymore! His A is definitely costing him $$ no matter what happens since Target no longer cuts it for self-care for me.
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
Yay! Good job! I just made an appointment for a facial this afternoon Let's be each other's accountability partners on GALing for US!
I just booked a hair appointment on Valentine’s Day!!! I haven’t dyed my hair in a loooong time and finally decided to pm this hair stylist that I found on Instagram and booked an appointment with him. It will take five hours but I’m super excited.
Hesable- YES YES YES!!!! Do all that!! Indulge yourself!!
May- it’s funny that you said target no longer cuts it for you for self-care...lol!!! I don’t live in the us anymore so I miss target so much!! And Trader Joe’s.
Well, since you all insist, I guess I will splurge on myself for Valentine's Day after all! Meanwhile, doing my face mask tonight while having tea and reading my new book. May even take a bubble bath and have a nice adult beverage before bed. This is living. LOL.
Will start a new thread so we can continue to encourage GALing and self-indulgence. :-)
