Moved over from Newcomers...

[Wanted1]

Interesting conversation.

I wish my ex and I could do a better job of being warmer for the kids’ sake. He just married his OW in the same year we divorced. I wish he had not made his OW the stepmom to my kids but I think that will play out just the way it should. He does not bring her around me at all. He says it is to prevent “awkwardness.” There is no awkwardness on my part; I sleep with a very clear conscience. If I met her I am not sure what I would do. In the end I pity her. She is 38 and got with a married man when she was probably 35 or 36. There is a reason why she went for a married guy; she is broken.

He kept it all a secret, asked my kids to keep her secret from me, too! They married without my kids present. Sounds pretty isolating. I believe there are reasons they are not shining a light on their “love.”

I let my ex go a very long time ago. He is not the person he was. I had the luxury (insert sarcasm emoji) of living with him and watching him spiral for years. He is a fraction of the man he was. She has super sloppy seconds; crumbs really.

Must be just awful to start a marriage on an affair. The story of how they met is so very sordid. His family knows it. Friends know it.

I am leaving it to the universe which always autocorrects I find. I am living a great life. Each day I am thankful to be free of the craziness I was living. And it was crazy!!!

Sounds pretty similar other than to my knowledge my ex hasn't gotten remarried yet.

I'm simply waiting for the universe and/or karma to come for a visit, as well.

I agree that it's got to be awful to start any relationship on an affair. I don't think I, personally, could do it. I thought maybe be now it would die a natural death, but my ex's AP lives 4 hours away from here. They see each other on weekends and while any LDR has their own unique challenges, I can't help but wonder it helps in their situation. They don't have to face the public, so to speak, on a daily basis. We live in a very small town and thus everyone knows why we D. I don't think any of his friends or family probably know the truth about how their R started since they all live so far away. I'm pretty confident they don't share how they met! There is a reason they waited almost a year to "come out" on SM about their R.

I'm in a much better place not having to deal with the craziness on a daily basis and living in the shame and embarrassment of sticking with a serial cheating spouse. That has been a massive weight which has been lifted off of me. I just hope and pray that eventually he will be out of picture and I won't have to deal with him anymore. As I've said numerous times, I would be completely open and accepting to anyone else as long as they are good to my kids.