Hey, Doc... Did you move back into the MBR yet?...
I'm going to ask this again, because it's important. I'm going to assume the answer is no, you haven't. I get the feeling that you're scared to do so. I also get the feeling that you "baby" your W and do everything for her. Neither of these things are attractive characteristics. I hate to be so blunt, but you better get ready for the D. Until you take back the MBR and stop catering to her every need, you're doomed. You have got nothing to lose! Don't look back someday wondering if you would still be married if you would have done these things...
I'll answer your question first mtb1981.
It's not as simple as you make it out to be. I felt so uncomfortable after she cheated that I moved to the other bedroom.
I didn't know anything about divorce busting and this forum.
I did research on in-house separation agreements and it was said that both of us should have separate living quarters, buy our own food, wash our own clothes. Well I did the first one but she cooks for the whole family and I do the laundry as I always have done.
I don't baby her anymore believe me. I did use to sometimes. I haven't completely ruled out taking back the MBR but then I would be breaking the agreement.
This is excuses and a non-answer. Regardless of everything you just said, the right thing to do would be to move back into to MBR and since she is in an active affair, move her OUT of the MBR. If you don't want to or don't have the moxy to do that, regardless of the reasons, then I think we know why this occurred in your marriage. Commanding respect is what a H should do. Once the W has lost respect for her H she is on the path to waywardness. Read sandi's writings here, she explains it in great detail.
Taking back the MBR, because she is the one leaving the marriage, is the right thing. Taking back the MBR also commands her respect.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
