I wish my ex and I could do a better job of being warmer for the kids’ sake. He just married his OW in the same year we divorced. I wish he had not made his OW the stepmom to my kids but I think that will play out just the way it should. He does not bring her around me at all. He says it is to prevent “awkwardness.” There is no awkwardness on my part; I sleep with a very clear conscience. If I met her I am not sure what I would do. In the end I pity her. She is 38 and got with a married man when she was probably 35 or 36. There is a reason why she went for a married guy; she is broken.
He kept it all a secret, asked my kids to keep her secret from me, too! They married without my kids present. Sounds pretty isolating. I believe there are reasons they are not shining a light on their “love.”
I let my ex go a very long time ago. He is not the person he was. I had the luxury (insert sarcasm emoji) of living with him and watching him spiral for years. He is a fraction of the man he was. She has super sloppy seconds; crumbs really.
Must be just awful to start a marriage on an affair. The story of how they met is so very sordid. His family knows it. Friends know it.
I am leaving it to the universe which always autocorrects I find. I am living a great life. Each day I am thankful to be free of the craziness I was living. And it was crazy!!!
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
