Wolf, there's a few things in there that bother me. First of all it sounds to me like S was adamant that he only wanted to watch the SB with you ALONE. Not you sitting next to him in a room full of people. It really does seem like you were coercing him into something he didn't want to do. I know that is something my son would not have liked when he was that age, his anxiety would be through the roof. Sure you kept asking nice and telling him it was fine if he didn't want to go, but he didn't want to disappoint you. He responded several times that he only wanted to watch it with you, and every time you said "no problem I'll be right next to you". Yeah, in a room full of strangers. That isn't what S wanted! Your W may very well have been trying to shield him because she knew he didn't want to go to someone else's house, but that he wouldn't be able to stand up for himself (he is only 9). Personally I think if you had offered to take S and D to your house that would have been a good compromise that would have made everyone happy including your W. Remember, it was your W's time with them. It is strictly up to her whether to allow you that time, and when you make it difficult on everyone then the next time you ask she'll be much less likely to accommodate you. Keeping a peaceful co-parenting arrangement is much more important than winning a battle in this case. It sounds like it all went well so that's good, but I offer this so that maybe you can see where your W might have been coming from. I know my kids would say one thing to my XW and another to me because they found me intimidating even when I was trying my hardest not to be.
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She is pushing my d on me because she is looking for this opportunity to go out and party.
Who cares? Take as much time with the kids as you can, what your W does with her spare time is only her concern as long as it's not endangering the kids.
