I think she legit noticed a change in her behavior. Did you get in her for being a few minutes late in the past?
My ex would get on me about the dumbest things and tear me down. For getting the wrong brand of something at the grocery store. For not being where he wanted at the exact time. Anything he could, he would. And it gave me a defensive reaction, a fear, everything around the tiniest things. I hated it.
She’s used to you reacting one way and she noticed you didn’t. She making you aware of a changed behavior that really upset her. She’s not pushing your buttons there. I can almost guarantee she was seriously freaking out in the car because of past reactions and she was shocked when it didn’t happen and she brought it up.
It would make much better for coparenting this way. My ex and I get along better than we ever did married. He’s a narcissist alright. He was awful to me married, but really has changed his ways by being more forgiving, understanding and validating. He was all of the opposite when we were dating/married. I appreciate it and it makes for much better coparenting
