Stranger In My House Part 2

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Wayfarer and May22: You are both so right. I need to focus more on self care, not to prove a point to him but simply to make myself feel good. I have been getting biweekly manicures and I bought myself a few new trendy pieces of clothing. Before M, I loved fashion and sort of lost that in the saving-money mode of being a mom and wife because we had other priorities. Wayfarer, I love the things you are doing and I may start doing some of them myself (e.g., candlelit baths, weekly flower purchases). I used to love reading and need to pick that back up.

May 22: I think it would be a good idea for me to check in daily on what I have done in terms of GALing. That will force me to get my mind off H's actions and on ME. I need to have some fun for a change. I definitely have been resenting that he can just go out and pursue happiness and fun at his leisure while I am at home scrubbing toilets, helping with science projects, rolling out the trash, and cooking casseroles. Seriously... Thanks also Wayfarer for the heads up on how your state law affects your ability to push H out of the house. I am sure my state has similar protections for my H which is why I will not mention it to him until I know my legal options which are likely pretty minimal.