"Walking Out of the Valley" 3

[hoosjim]

I'd listen to your lawyer on this. Sounds as if you have moved on for now from her, so probably protecting your interests should be paramount. In some states, including SC, adultery is an absolute bar to having to pay any spousal support (alimony), and can impact other things including division of property and child custody. Now, adultery can be difficult to prove but it sounds in this case as if the whole world knows about this and it might not be so hard to prove after all. If you are willing and ready to cut ties, I'd think about letting your lawyer drive as hard a bargain as possible-- he will know what is best and what is not best for you, legally speaking.

Also, protecting yourself legally does not mean you have to be "not amicable". The law is the law and what she did is what she did. There are consequences. You don't have to be vindictive or hateful about it but the bottom line is that a) she cheated, broke her vows, and broke up the marriage and b) as long as she is Wayward and playing GGW and sleeping around and otherwise disrespecting you-- the primary masculine role model in your sons' lives-- she is not anywhere near as fit as you to parent the kids. JMHO. Honestly, she doesn't have a leg to stand on, here.

I'd think about exactly "what it is you want" in all areas, then discuss these with your lawyer, and then let the lawyer do his job and, in the interim, be as cordial and upbeat towards W as possible. Hate will eat you alive, but "protecting your legal interests" and "hate" are not the same thing. You can be nice and polite and protect you and your sons' interests at the same time.

JMHO