Maybe just play it lightly and seek other guys as well that are out of their divorces a bit longer. Take it day by day and just see what happens. Any one else appealing that you are matching with? Just because you have a second date with someone you are not super excited about, doesn’t mean to stop writing to other guys.
I’m with you in that I wouldn’t want to sleep with someone unless I felt there was a potential for a future. You can ask him on your 2nd date, what he’s looking for and maybe if it’s different just don’t waste your time.
Also my advise to change some stuff up is let him pay on Tuesday. You never let guys do that. But It’s also a establishing your value thing. I loved the advise that hawho gave you - that your not playing games but teaching someone how to treat you. I also like J’s suggestion not to mention that he needs to make plans early with you. Let him figure it out through your actions. And then figure out whether you like him by his actions.
I know I’m one of the more conservative (dating wise) posters on here but I Think there is value to traditional approaches too. Of course it depends on the individuals too.
