Gerda, I'm wondering if you have ever heard of Pema Chodron, an American Buddhist. She wrote a book that I read when OD first left that helped me very much. I came across a quote from it today and wanted to mention it to you. The book is called "When Things Fall Apart."
"The way to dissolve our resistance to life is to meet it face to face. When we feel resentment because the room is too hot, we could meet the heat and feel its fieriness and its heaviness. When we feel resentment because the room is too cold, we could meet the cold and feel its iciness and its bite. When we want to complain about the rain, we could feel its wetness instead. When we worry because the wind is shaking our windows, we could meet the wind and hear its sound. There is no cure for hot and cold. They go on forever. After we have died, the ebb and flow will still continue...Being able to appreciate, being able to look closely, being able to open our minds - this is the core of loving kindness."
