Ex was running late with kids. She got there about 2 minutes later. She said sorry I’m late I said no problem. She gave my s a hug and he got in the car. My d said hello to me and I said hi back. Then ex said I know when I am late you give me such a hard time. Always looking to start things. I just said no hard time no problem at all in a very nice calm voice. I will have s home by 9 and I left. Is it ever possible that she will NOT push my buttons? Or is she trying to remind herself why she d me?
The way I'm reading it Wolf could be one of two ways. XW Is glad you are not giving her a hard time for being late this time and notices a behavior change with you. Or two she is expecting you to give her a hard time for being late from past experiences, and is bating you with drama because a negative interaction is better than no interaction at all or indifference. The latter is a narc characteristic. Either way sounds like you had a positive uneventful fulfilling experience with XW and S. My question is what meaning are you going to assign and does it matter or have bearing on a positive outcome or direction in your life? What do you think? Do you think all went well as far as co-parenting this interaction?
The meaning is both. I think she sees changes but doesn’t want to acknowledge it, also I feel she loves drama and is always looking for something. I just show I am not that person anymore, or at least trying to be understanding and calm yet indifferent with ex. I think it’s good she sees these changes but it’s way to early to mean anything to her. I think it went well. I try very hard to communicate everything. I use to wait till the last minute to tell her things or do things. So we were in constant communication about what was going on yesterday as far as the kids.
M:42 XW:41 T:19 M: 15 D:13 S:10 BD: 8/10/18 Moved out: 8/18 Moved in: 9/18/18 Moved out: 4/22/19 D papers signed 11/4/19 D final 3/18/20
