Stranger In My House Part 2

[Pommy99]

HesAble, I have asked/told my H to leave a couple of times in the last month. Both times were a reaction to something he had done to betray me. The response I got was a sulky acknowledgement that he would find somewhere . But he hasn’t found anywhere, he’s not actively looking (he’s viewed one place and dismissed it as unsuitable). My point is that he doesn’t want to go, and i don’t want him to go. He now knows that I’m not following through on my requests for him to leave - what message does that give him? As others have said, only say it when you know you mean it. I’m not at that place right now. I’m close, but i need to work on myself more before I make that decision. I know you want to shock him so that he will see sense, but everything I read here tells me it doesn’t work like that.