You guys are so awesome. You always give me a lot to think about.
I was at my sister’s yesterday and she was like... “Meh...who cares? Men are hunters. Don’t be so available.” Sigh...why am I still learning this at 51? I guess I just always figured that if it is “right”, it should be easy. Of course, by the time you get to this phase of life, we’ve been through a lot and maybe we don’t trust so easily or feel pressured and get scared off if we think the other person is really interested? IDK...when he was talking about “everything at the perfect time” and “we’ll figure something out soon”, maybe I should have read that as “not right now” and “leave it up to me.” I am so straight forward and transparent, I just assume other people are too...especially when they say they are. But I guess lots of people like to think they are that way but when it comes right down to it, not so much.
Coconut... I do like your direct approach TBH. Cause seriously, when he does finally text me, won’t that be the elephant in the room? And that may come up at some point...like three years from now when I say... “hey...remember that time you ghosted me cause you were being a complete loser?” LOL. We do have a history but it isn’t recent, so I am still figuring him out.
Ginger... Despite this recent snafu, I still think he is a pretty great guy. Not because of what he says but because of how he lives his life. I’ve thought about this a lot and my best guess, given all of the information that I have, is that he is worried about how much we have been talking and that if we meet too soon, he might find himself in a relationship he is not sure he is ready for or has time for. So... I think he is need of some space and I’m going to give it to him.
KML & Bttrfly... Good advice. I don’t think he is a bad guy. I know too many good things about him and the way his 20-year marriage ended says a lot about who he is at his core. I just think he is scared he has bitten off more than he can chew and is trying to slow things down...not is a great way but I see the intent behind it.
Anyway...I have an unbelievably busy day ahead of me so I better get to it. Love you all!!! (((HUGS)))
