My concern now is the kids. H is disregarding how this impacts them. He may care but he is trying to ignore the signs to avoid guilt for spending nights away, I guess. Guilt would be killing me if I did the things H is doing but he has no moral compass.
I want him to leave the house because I am tired of the disrespect, but I don't want the children to suffer from H being gone all the time (versus a few nights a week). It is like having to choose between two bad situations.
H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9 BD - 11/2019 Married 14 years; Together 20 years