Stranger In My House Part 2

[HesAble]

My situation is so hopeless. The weekend has come to an end. H has spent less than 24 hours at home this weekend. His moral compass is completely gone. There has to be an OW. I know DB says don't snoop and pry to find out details, but I am wondering if I should hire a PI to have ammunition in the event we end up getting a D (it looks more and more certain that we will get one because H's behavior seems to be getting worse rather than improving).

I am trying to be patient. Praying. Waiting. It has only been a short time but it seems like an eternity. I do not know what I would do without this board. You all have talked sense into me more than once when I have been ready to give up and throw in the towel.

I am just not sure if the M can be saved when H has shown such disrespect for me. There is one thing to fall out of love with someone, but you could still show them respect. Staying out all night elsewhere several nights a week is disrespectful to me, but also to the kids whom he knows are aware that he is away a whole lot more than normal. They are also aware of the tension in our M although I have tried to pretend all is well to the extent possible without flat out lying. I do not understand how the wayward spouse can risk everything, even their relationship with their kids, for their own pursuit of happiness. Unbelievable!