Well...it is 8:45 on Sunday night so almost three full days since I have heard anything from Brook. Honestly...this is just so bizarre to me. Did I really scare him off by suggesting we meet for coffee?? Was it how I suggested it? I just don’t get it. We went from having a great conversation on Thursday night that HE initiated and a “talk to you tomorrow” to NOTHING...radio silence. He has been so thoughtful and polite up until now. I am at a loss and TBH, kinda irritated. Objectively I know that we are not actually “dating” yet but we have been consistently talking almost every day for three weeks. If he has changed his mind about the universal plan and all that, do I not at least deserve a heads up of some kind?
Well...at least Buddy is back in my life. His take...similar to Don...thinks he’ s overwhelmed and/or scared... he also says that most people keep there phone pretty nearby so there is really no good excuse for not returning a text in a timely manner...even if it is to say “no thanks”. He and I are pretty like-minded individuals which is why we get along so well...lol.
So my question is this... When he does eventually contact me, and I can’t believe he won’t...that would just be too strange. So... assuming I hear from him (can’t imagine what he will say) what do I do?
1. Do I wait a day to respond? To me that would be super obvious as anyone who knows me at all knows that I get back to people pretty quickly. So my thought is that I should text back that I can’t talk right now and will contact him later...and then make sure it is much later.
2. And, when I do finally respond, do I
A) Pretend that I didn’t even notice or care that he was MIA for three (or four or five...who knows?) days, have our usual great conversation and then just stop initiating any conversations or suggesting meet-ups from here on out?
Or
B) Tell him I’m confused about the radio silence and ask him what that was about? Assuming he even knows??
TBH...I’m kinda leaning towards telling him I don’t have time to talk and then A. I think maybe B might be more appropriate if we were in a relationship. Certainly I know the texting etiquette between friends is a lot looser than texting between potential love interests. i.e If I texted a friend and they got back to me five days later (assuming it wasn’t a question that needed a rapid response), I wouldn’t think anything of it. However, if they asked me if I was free to do something, I would probably give them an answer one way or another. So have I been suddenly friend zoned?
Anyway...he is working graveyards tonight and tomorrow so not really expecting he will get in touch tonight...especially if it is a busy shift. Maybe tomorrow afternoon sometime or even Tuesday when he has finished his last shift. Just wanted people’s opinions as I’m feeling a bit out of my element and a little blindsided by this new development.
