Today when I talked to the pessimistic BFF, she started asking questions about H and I just politely said, "You know, I think I want to stop talking about and focusing on him so much." Her response was, "Great. I hope you keep that mindset." What I meant was I want to stop talking about H with her! So hopefully she will not be offering up advice to stop standing for my M because I will try to avoid talking about M with her so much. Background: She is divorced (she left her H who did not want a D in the midst of what I think may have been her own MLC so she definitely cannot relate to standing for a M like mine).

Last edited by HesAble; 02/02/20 08:07 PM.
H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9
BD - 11/2019
Married 14 years; Together 20 years