M, stop looking in her drawer and try to control your emotions. Whenever you feel like doing something, wait a few days or a week to see if you still feel the same way. Being unable to control your emotions is a unattractive quality. You want to look back at this and be proud of yourself and how you handled things.

We´ve all made mistakes along the way. No you shouldn´t have asked him about your W but just don´t do it again.

Again, do not look in her drawer again. You already know enough so snooping won´t benefit you in any way. You have a long road ahead of you so the sooner you begin your healing process the better for you. Detachment doesn´t happen overnight.


Me: 38
Stbxw: 35
No kids
Mini bd: February 6, 2019
ONS confirmed Sept 7, 2019
Told her to move out: September 8, 2019
W moved out: September 28, 2019
Divorce filed by me: September 23, 2019