I declined going to W's niece birthday party, here's the translated text exchange between us:
Before that, a bit of context: only close family members and friends know of our sitch. Both of us do not want more people to know. We've only been married for two months and if people know that we're heading towards D then they are going to talk. W and her family want to avoid the humility and avoid looking bad. We agreed earlier on during the separation that we'll have to continue to come to family events and pretend everything is normal. As for me, right now, I couldn't care less anymore. People will talk eventually. I am only complying with it all this time to not cause any more stress to W. Fearing it will push her away.
W: What's the plan tomorrow you're going to the birthday? Me: I am not able to come. I'll text [MIL] and [SIL] later and inform them, since they are the ones that invited me. W: Why are you not able to come? W: Haven't updated you. The other people that recently know about our situation is [a few of her uncles and aunts]. That's all. W: and what's with the "since they are the ones that invited me". Were you waiting for me to ask you to come? We agreed earlier to go to all family gatherings. I don't know what is happening with your side of the family because if no one said anything to me then I wouldn't know if there is a family gathering or whatever. Me: I have other plans tomorrow. W: That's what I'm gonna go tell my family? Me: Yes W: Alright
She seemed displeased with me not going. As that would cause her more trouble. But she can manage that on her own *shrugs*
I want to have feedback regarding my responses in this exchange. Is this okay? Or does it seemed to cold?
Fun, I'm giving you a standing ovation here. This. Is. PERFECT!!!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
