Remember this whole things is more about him than you. That includes his response. The underlining ever present “feeling” for a crisis person is depression. A depressed person has difficultly with lots of activities, sex included.
We strive to do more of what works and less of what doesn’t.
This attempt was unsuccessful. It may have success later, but no time soon. Leave it be for now. H knows, and might just initiate round two himself. What would you do? Of course he may not either; got to watch those expectations.
Overall you sound like you handled it really well. Casual and reasonably pressure free. It was what you wanted to do.
Don’t dwell on his response too much. Treat this as you would if had said no, to you asked him to go to the store with you. MLCers don’t see the world and interactions the same as you.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
