Those were perfect responses, Funbun. Whether you tell people about your situation or not is up to you. I decided not to speak to his family or mutual friends, but had one or two of my own friends I felt free to confide in. H was very angry and paranoid that I'd been speaking badly about him to mutual friends and acquaintances - but I didn't bother to defend myself or engage with that. I don't know anything about who he has told or what he has told, and I don't ask or think about that too much any more.
As for the ring - well, the benefit to me was in signalling to others - men - that I was married and not available or looking for a sexual or romantic relationship. For me, that would be true no matter what H did up until we were formally divorced. We have a long relationship and the wellbeing of children to consider. In your shoes, I might choose differently. I think the main thing is to suit yourself and your own values here and not make any choice that is about getting a reaction from your W.
