The ring coming off hurts and it won't really go away but you will have to accept it.
I've just dropped D12 off with my W as it's time for the weekly swap-over. Despite her saying to me this morning that S15 should stay with me if he is still unwell, she asked me where he was, then took issue with me over the text message I sent saying we were on our way. I apologised, then when I looked back saw that I had clearly written "Bringing D12 over now" (followed by stuff about S15 being sick etc). So I clearly said I was only bringing one child over but got a bit of a serve and I apologised to her as if I'd written something else! (I didn't remember what I'd written and took her word for it when she complained.) The W keeps telling me we have communication issues, all mine. This is yet another time I'd like to go back and say hey, it's not all me, lets just keep working on stuff and keep talking and asking questions so we both understand. Of course I was already in the car when I checked what I'd written, so will just forget it. It'd serve no purpose to go back and rehash it.
While I was there, I worked fast dropping off the school gear etc so I was out of her hair quickly and back to giving her space. When we were talking, W stood fairly close and then started rubbing the corner of her left eye with one of the fingers on her left hand. Not her pointer, but her ring finger - the one I'd seen this morning missing her wedding ring. Hand all splayed out wide in front of her face (and mine) as she did it. Then she switched to another finger and rubbed the eye a bit more, back of her hand still to me, all fingers on display. Was she trying to get me to notice she'd removed her wedding ring? Was she hoping I'd yell, cry, beg, ask? Maybe it was subconscious? I just looked elsewhere as I spoke. I didn't know whether to laugh at the pantomime or feel sorry for her.
The other thought that strikes me is yet again another shift by my W away from reconciliation has happened just after her mother has been around. She greeted me nicely when she saw me last week but put me in a separate bit on her Christmas card. Even the dog got included in the 'Merry Christmas' part!
