One of my BFFs has basically made me feel like I am a fool to put up with H staying out all night so frequently. She thinks we are doomed. I wish I had never even confided in her but she is one of my closest confidants. I had a long talk with her today and it has likely left me feeling like the love is gone, the hope is gone....
Has anyone confided in someone about the BD and MLC-ish behavior, only to regret it because the person becomes pessimistic and even a bit condescending. If so, how did you deal with it?
When I first told one of my best friends about it, I thought to myself after, “wow, if I were her, I would tell myself to run away from this guy as fast as I can!!!!” My friend actually didn’t say that to me but offered encouragement that it is okay to walk away if I decide to do so. But I did stop sharing all the details about our sitch with the few friends who know though, mainly because I realized there is no way they could possibly understand what I’m going through and they might inevitably feel this pressure to offer advice like your friend that I might not necessarily want to hear.
If you don’t want this pressure from your BFF, you may need to set a boundary with her. “I appreciate your concern, but I need time to come to a conclusion on my own.”
