Stranger In My House Part 2

[cardinal]

HesAble, I'm sorry it's a rough day for you. I nodded at this:

In his universe, saying he does not want to be married means he is automatically not married and is automatically free to do whatever he pleases.

My H hurried toward his new lifestyle after BD, and then took his ring off a few months later, as if his decision meant he was no longer married. I totally understand why you'd want to talk to him, but I also doubt it would be very productive. Where's his head at? It's like you said, he's in his own universe. Of course you know your H best, but I wonder if it is possible he isn't aiming his behavior at you. Maybe he is. Or maybe he doesn't think of how it affects you or the children at all, because he's in his own universe, and he's mostly thinking about himself.

How could anyone be in love with someone who is mistreating them badly? I am starting to question even if I love him now.

I think it would be hard to be IN love with someone who is not treating you with respect. Do you love him now? Do you love him and do you love him NOW are different questions, maybe. Can love be restored? If you don't feel love now, could it return in the future? I tend to think anything is possible under the right circumstances. But maybe that is something you don't have to answer with a definitive yes or no. Maybe that is just an open-ended question you keep in mind.