SC it doesn't sound tragic when you type out "Goodnight H I love you". I am not ashamed to say I have done this almost every night. We're on day 4 of limited contact. It's been hard, but if it's what ww needs at this time, I am comfortable within myself to take the time apart as a gift.
My IC is really pushing my thinking. She is not afraid to call me out on my own stuff and challenges my perceptions. There is only thing I don't think I'm comfortable with. She keeps putting pressure on me to consider filing and moving on with my life. She even said that she doesn't know if it's possible to change the emotional atmosphere (sadness, anxiety, loneliness, instability) without filing for D. I have been clear with her about my intentions to stand and honest with her about my emotional state while doing so. I made an off-hand joke about feeling "used to" being exhausted all the time. She was passionate about the fact that we should never get used to feeling that way. She is on her third marriage (no judgement here, it's hard), but I am learning that even skilled therapists can come with some biased views on some issues.
I have been blasting through some tough tax things with work and it feels good to be so productive. May, how is the practice with validation and listening going in your life outside of H? I had a client tell me that "she could see why I was a manager because I'm such a good listener and let clients feel heard" today! Also, I forget if I have mentioned in a previous post, but I bought a ukulele! I have played guitar for years and was a full time musician (singer/songwriter) for several years in my twenties. Never played the ukulele, but thought it might be fun and relaxing for some "me" time.
Happy Friday DB Fam!
KG
Last edited by KristinG; 01/31/2010:24 PM.
LBW 32 - me WW 31 T 7 M 4 No Kids 4 dogs
Separated 1y Navigating the mine field and GAL with or without
