Oh, my—I forgot I wanted to throw out a question, too. One of the results of a more open H is that he shared with me the date of his mom's last day of work, which is also her birthday. Should I text her a simple Happy Bday/Happy retirement? I feel it's the kind thing to do. I know she's been looking forward to retiring for a long time. But I don't want to start a convo with her.
I thought I had a good relationship with her, but after BD, she's never really communicated with me about what's going on. She did send a birthday text to me. She also once sent me a text that, to me, suggested she hopes I'm moving on, which really got to me. I expected her to support me in fighting for our M, but it's true that I don't know how she really feels about BD or what H has told her. I've been really hurt by her lack of support.
I think the only reason I'm hesitating to text her is because I'm afraid she'll text something back that I interpret as hurtful again. Should I just toughen up—i.e. if she does, why should I let it affect me?
