What do you have to do to earn sexy time? Is there a points system?
I'm literally laughing out loud on that one, LH. A point system....now that is funny.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
You see G...stick with me and L, we wont steer you wrong. You will be fine as long as your interest level doesnt fall below a 5. No sexy time G......maybe he will climb on board or maybe not.
Also....dont devuldge what your fun plans are tonight and if he texts you after 5 pm tonight do not respond until tomorrow. For all he knows you are on a date tonight and he needs to feel that way.
No more comments about how he waited too long. Dont show him your interest level
I would wait at least 5 dates for the punani if I was really interested in a woman.
Says the guy who just had sex on the second date. And DO NOT try to say you were just kidding again.
Ginger this all makes total sense and follows the many books including coach. No, we can’t get inside his head to know why he waited until hours before when he clearly could have asked sooner. Who knows and perhaps who cares. He did wait. That’s data you add to the collection. Most importantly you went against your norm and see the reaction? I’ll bet you thought you’d not see him again and you were passing up a date tonight to do nothing. Instead he’s more interested than he was - likely way more interested than had you said yes to tonight. You increased your value!!! It’s as counterintuitive as DBing is at first. Don’t chase and walk away to get attention? YES. Call it what you want even game playing (which I don’t think it is) it’s human nature to want want you don’t or can’t have. He may be kicking himself now.
You did good Ginger - keep it up. Frick and Frack even did a good job of helping.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
He’s going to try. I can tell you that. I’m going to turn him done until I’m ready.
The real gods honest reason I didn’t jump at the chance is because I didn’t want to, honestly. Not to play a game, but I honestly felt like it was too late to ask, and I shouldn’t rearrange my night, even if it consists of cleaning , that was what I planned and my time has never been respected in the past and it has never sat well with me.
I have to respect myself before others will.
I think he’s interested. I need to get more interested. We will see where it goes
