The person I normally am would've throw the "you're not the only one" kind of line out there. He just caught me so off guard I couldn't be my normal quick witted self. He hasn't complimented me in nearly 4 months. To be honest I was a little confused and thought I heard him wrong.
Which probably goes to your #2 point. I am currently faking it until I make it with self esteem right now. In my R with my D's father he spent a ton of time being very cruel about the body I had and the weight struggles I had after I had our daughter. He was privy to my amazing 18 year old body, and refused to accept the new motherly one. Even in that glorious 18 year old body he'd say things like "if you'd just lose a little weight." Spending nearly 10 years like that will wreck a lot of people's self worth. So when my current H and I started dating and he treated me like a golden goddess, 30 something mom body and all, I felt like a totally different woman. Since he took that attention and affection away it's been super hard for me to see my self like that golden godess without being able to see myself through his eyes. <- That has forced me into a 180 loving myself and not gaining my self worth from any one else. But that one is a big one that's taking me some time to be truly successful at. However, you're right R2C. Assigning a meaning to it is more about what's in my head then his.
